Lesson 10 Barriers to Success - the Neurolinguistic Programming perspective
Barriers to success
Our own behaviour as a barrier
Human behaviour is always purposeful. Your behaviour has a result you want to create in the world however we often don’t know the purpose of our actions and sometimes we are torn between two courses of action.
Particularly when we are studying, we may encounter some barriers to success. One way of getting past the obstacles is to look them using some of the principles of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). Firstly we need to understand ourselves and feel comfortable with our choices (rapport) then we need to know what we want (outcome). We need to get as much feed back as possible using our senses (sensory acuity) to make sure we stay on target. Finally, based on the feed back, we need to keep changing what we are doing until we get what we want (behavioural flexibility). Having as many choices of behaviour as possible will help us get through to our final goal.
Different logical levels
Sometimes we might want to look at the different levels to see where we might make changes. Robert Dilts (one of the founders of NLP) understood the levels to be
Environment (where & when)
Place you are in and people you are with.
Behaviour (what)
Our specific conscious actions and thoughts designed to achieve a purpose.
Capability (how)
Behaviour that is practised so often it is automatic and consistent such as thinking strategies or physical skills.
Beliefs and values (why)
Our beliefs and values act as prohibitions and permissions. If you believe you can’t or do not value the activity then failure may be the result.
Identity (who)
It has been built and developed over years so can be the hardest logical level to change. Am the kind of person who studies? Am I the kind of person who does not take things seriously?
Spiritual
Being at one with the world, the rest of mankind, the earth’s energy or God (the Higher Power).
Thinking about the different levels to overcome barriers
Having an idea about where the barrier might be helps us understand what needs to be changed. Looking a choices by examining where we might make a change most easily and effectively on the different levels helps give us as many choices as possible..
Any change still needs to keep the positive by-products of the present behaviour or meet them in some other form.
Any change which involves a skill goes through 4 stages of learning, firstly you don’t know you don’t have it; trying to learn it and knowing you are not very good at it and it takes a lot of attention to do it. It also feels very uncomfortable. Then you have the capability but it still takes attention to do. Finally you do it easily without thinking. Perseverance and practise will change beliefs
For example
Veronica has a group of friends from her old school who she ends up talking to at college when she has planned to study between classes. She is the only one of the group who is aiming to go to university.
What does she want (outcome)?
To study more preferably at College.
Environment - College/ school friends
Possible choices of place/time: Study at home, study at the public library, go home to study, see old school friends at lunch time
Possible choices of people: Make some new friends in each subject area to study with,
Behaviour: Talking with friends putting off study.
The positive by product for this behaviour is to maintain friendships and emotional support however it is not helping her study.
Choices for change of behaviour need to include maintaining the friendships.
Capability – to resist peer pressure and follow own plans
Practising and setting goals for study, recognising that this is not yet a skill she has and that at first this will be difficult. She is at the level of conscious incompetence.
Beliefs and values – Old school friends are important
Other choices are strengthening and understanding the value and beliefs around college and education.
Identity
Her identity is linked with her old school however is now changing from that of her friends as she is aiming for university.
Possible choices: seek support from friends about her difference in choice, recognise changing identity. Is she someone who goes to university? Is this out come right for her?
Spiritual
What is her view of God/Higher Power’s purpose for her life and how do these changes fit in?
Mainly based on
Principles of NLP O’Connor J & McDermott I (London: Thorsons 1996)
Using your brain for a change, Bandler R (London Real People Press 1985)
Our own behaviour as a barrier
Human behaviour is always purposeful. Your behaviour has a result you want to create in the world however we often don’t know the purpose of our actions and sometimes we are torn between two courses of action.
Particularly when we are studying, we may encounter some barriers to success. One way of getting past the obstacles is to look them using some of the principles of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). Firstly we need to understand ourselves and feel comfortable with our choices (rapport) then we need to know what we want (outcome). We need to get as much feed back as possible using our senses (sensory acuity) to make sure we stay on target. Finally, based on the feed back, we need to keep changing what we are doing until we get what we want (behavioural flexibility). Having as many choices of behaviour as possible will help us get through to our final goal.
Different logical levels
Sometimes we might want to look at the different levels to see where we might make changes. Robert Dilts (one of the founders of NLP) understood the levels to be
Environment (where & when)
Place you are in and people you are with.
Behaviour (what)
Our specific conscious actions and thoughts designed to achieve a purpose.
Capability (how)
Behaviour that is practised so often it is automatic and consistent such as thinking strategies or physical skills.
Beliefs and values (why)
Our beliefs and values act as prohibitions and permissions. If you believe you can’t or do not value the activity then failure may be the result.
Identity (who)
It has been built and developed over years so can be the hardest logical level to change. Am the kind of person who studies? Am I the kind of person who does not take things seriously?
Spiritual
Being at one with the world, the rest of mankind, the earth’s energy or God (the Higher Power).
Thinking about the different levels to overcome barriers
Having an idea about where the barrier might be helps us understand what needs to be changed. Looking a choices by examining where we might make a change most easily and effectively on the different levels helps give us as many choices as possible..
Any change still needs to keep the positive by-products of the present behaviour or meet them in some other form.
Any change which involves a skill goes through 4 stages of learning, firstly you don’t know you don’t have it; trying to learn it and knowing you are not very good at it and it takes a lot of attention to do it. It also feels very uncomfortable. Then you have the capability but it still takes attention to do. Finally you do it easily without thinking. Perseverance and practise will change beliefs
For example
Veronica has a group of friends from her old school who she ends up talking to at college when she has planned to study between classes. She is the only one of the group who is aiming to go to university.
What does she want (outcome)?
To study more preferably at College.
Environment - College/ school friends
Possible choices of place/time: Study at home, study at the public library, go home to study, see old school friends at lunch time
Possible choices of people: Make some new friends in each subject area to study with,
Behaviour: Talking with friends putting off study.
The positive by product for this behaviour is to maintain friendships and emotional support however it is not helping her study.
Choices for change of behaviour need to include maintaining the friendships.
Capability – to resist peer pressure and follow own plans
Practising and setting goals for study, recognising that this is not yet a skill she has and that at first this will be difficult. She is at the level of conscious incompetence.
Beliefs and values – Old school friends are important
Other choices are strengthening and understanding the value and beliefs around college and education.
Identity
Her identity is linked with her old school however is now changing from that of her friends as she is aiming for university.
Possible choices: seek support from friends about her difference in choice, recognise changing identity. Is she someone who goes to university? Is this out come right for her?
Spiritual
What is her view of God/Higher Power’s purpose for her life and how do these changes fit in?
Mainly based on
Principles of NLP O’Connor J & McDermott I (London: Thorsons 1996)
Using your brain for a change, Bandler R (London Real People Press 1985)
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